Monday, December 19, 2011

So Much To Do

With our new adventure only weeks away, I find myself having LOADS of things to do. Well, partly. Christmastime comes with its own hefty "To Do" list as well.

Today, I was planning on doing a whole list of things after getting off of work. The plan was to put James down for his nap & then set off on an errand-running spree once he woke up.

Yea, wishful thinking on my part. "Oh, you want me to nap today, Mom? Because I want to PLAY!" Blech.

So, here it is, almost 4pm, & I still have yet to run one single errand. Guess I better get on top of things, even if it means having a grumpy bum for a son later this evening.

Our Sort of Biggish News

We have sort of biggish news for you.

No, we're not pregnant. (You were thinking it, weren't you?) We're moving to Ohio at the end of January.

We are super excited about this! Originally, our plan was to have David apply to a few schools for his Master's program, wait to see where he was accepted & then make our decision as to where we would move. However, a couple of weeks ago, we were both feeling like it was time for us to move & that we needed to act on that immediately. We both had been feeling like Ohio State was the place for David & that waiting around here in Provo would be like putting our lives on hold. I know that it might seem presumptuous to assume that he'll get into his first choice school, but we definitely feel like Ohio is the place for us right now. If he doesn't get in to OSU, he'll work for a year & we'll apply again to other schools.

At any rate, this is our plan. Only 5.5 more weeks left in Provo!

Monday, November 28, 2011

New Birthday Toy

Today, James got a birthday present in the mail from his Uncle Tony & Aunt Jen. It was a Toy Story DVD & a toy car to go along with it - RC with Woody riding inside! Here he is giving it a test run:

(You can also catch a glimpse of James' main Christmas present sitting in front of the couch. I'm not sure what I'll do when I have to actually hide them!)

The Sweetest Thing

How did I get such a sweet boy? No idea. Though he loves to be a little mischievous at times and has learned how to fake cry like the best of them, he's still a really big sweetheart. He won't fall asleep in my arms anymore (unless he wakes up in the middle of the night and I'm helping him back to sleep), but he loves to snuggle and be tickled mercilessly. I know that Thanksgiving was a few days ago, but I have to say that I'm really thankful for my little family. We don't have much right now, but we definitely have each other and that's good enough for me.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

James' 1 Year Portraits

Here they are! James' one year portraits! He was having a little bit of a sad day, as he was quite opposed to sitting still, but they still turned out pretty cute. (After all, this is James we are talking about here.)

Happy Birthday, Little Man!

James' First Birthday Party

We decided to celebrate James' birthday a day early because his actual birthday falls on a Sunday. Here are some pictures (and a video) from his party earlier today.

Here's the sign we put on the door, along with a few balloons, to welcome the guests to James' Doctor Who-themed party!

All of the delicious treats, including the TARDIS cupcake layout!

This is the fabulous name banner that my good friend, Lisa, made for James.

Digging in to our first birthday cupcake.

James' buddy, Matthew, wanted to have some cupcake, too. Matthew's birthday was just a few days earlier and James decided to help himself to Matthew's birthday cupcake at his party, so it was only fair to share.

Here's a video of James enjoying his cupcake.

Opening our presents!

Mommy & Daddy gave me a Cars backpack (so I can carry my own stuff now).

The party was tons of fun and we were so glad that so many of our friends could make it. Thanks for making it memorable!

Monday, November 7, 2011

On My Own Two Feet

Here is a FABULOUS new video for you! It's pretty self-explanatory. :)

(Oh, and I'm sorry about how loud I am. I am well aware of my own loudness, but it always seems to escape me that a microphone is right by my big mouth when I'm recording these videos. Sorry!)

Monday, October 31, 2011

Happy Halloween!

James made it through his first Halloween wonderfully. (Well, almost. There was that "no nap" business we encountered earlier, but other than that, it was a success.) Earlier this afternoon, we met David on campus & had lunch. After David got home from class, the three of us went to the University Mall in Orem for a little trick-or-treating. Here's James' first go at it:

Then, once we'd finished, we let James examine his loot.

Happy Halloween! :)

Monday, October 24, 2011

Motherhood Is Hard Enough As It Is...

So I was perusing Facebook today (like most days) and I saw a bit of a running theme within my friends' status updates that didn't sit quite right with me. I saw a few different women post about the terrible day that they had, which was obviously caused by their chaotic (though I'm sure still lovable) children. At first, this gave me a little bit of comfort, seeing as how I fought my baby for two hours this afternoon to take a nap that he actually never ended up taking, which resulted in tears on both ends. But as I read further, I saw the aforementioned theme emerge.

Naturally, I'd expect to see other women, particularly mothers, consoling their friends or relating to this experience. No biggie. But a couple of these women (who originally posted her parenting woes) felt the need to make sure that her friends knew that her problems were monumentally bigger than their consoling friend(s) could ever understand.

I'm talking about pulling out the "I have more kids than you" card.

What is it about women, particularly mothers, that make us think that if we one-up our friends that it somehow makes us smarter, prettier, wealthier, a better parent and all-around much more awesome?

On one particular status, this friend, who just had her second baby, jokingly posted about having another mental breakdown. A friend of hers (who I do not know) commented that she'd been "having more of those since becoming a mother", to which my friend replied, "Try having two. Then we'll talk. LOL" (as if the "LOL" made the comment any less rude... but that's a pet peeve for another day).

I'm not saying that this friend meant to be intentionally rude, and maybe it's just the mother-of-one in me being a little sensitive, but motherhood is hard. Period. What kind of good does it do to cut others down just because you have more kids than they do, as if they can't understand your parenting frustrations? Does it make your problems more important? Or your triumphs more successful? Does it mean that they are less of a mother because their attention is less divided?

Absolutely not.

I think it's perfectly okay to feel sorry for yourself every once in a while, because hey, things get rough sometimes. As long as you aren't dwelling in it, I see no real harm. The harm comes when you make others feel like their feelings or experiences are somehow less important simply because they haven't quite reached the stage of parenthood that you have reached.

Having even one kid is a hard adjustment. You went from being able to spend your time, energy, money and emotions the way that you wanted to (for the most part) to having a little one demand every ounce of your time, energy, money and emotions. I'm not doubting that having two kids is harder than having one. You have two little people who are now demanding it all. But at least you are already used to the parenthood gig by this point (unless you have twins first). And I'm guessing that adding any number of children to your family is a big adjustment. But sometimes, I think that parents with more than one child tend to forget that rocky transition from merely couple status to family of three.

So why the rudeness? Motherhood is hard for all of us. We all have good days and we all have bad days. One thing that we all need is a little more support.

James' 11 Month Portraits